Focusing Too Narrowly
On other lists of thought-mistakes, this is called “filtering” or “negative filter.” It means focusing on a negative detail and ignoring other parts of the situation that might not be so bad.
For example, let’s say my wife says something kind of hostile to me, and I get upset by that, focusing on the fact that she is hostile and ignoring the fact that we’ve spent the last two hours in a great conversation, and also ignoring the fact that immediately prior to her being hostile, I said something insulting!
When you’re looking at your negative statement (using the basic technique), look for this kind of tunnel vision, because it is a mistake. You’re leaving out other facts that would make your explanation of the situation a lot less upsetting. It’s a mistake by omission. What you see may not be a mistake, but you’re leaving out other facts that would ease your suffering or eliminate your feeling of discouragement.
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